WHO MADE BABYLOSS A COMPETITION?

WHO MADE BABYLOSS A COMPETITION?

I’ve been trying to think of a way to raise this discussion, a way to make people stop and think about their actions for a while now.
I’ve come to realise that it’s not worth it. I’ve started to realise that it won’t change.
People all over the world are suffering because of babyloss. More and more people find themselves heart broken everyday.

People want to make a difference in the babyloss community. People want to make their voices heard. I understand that. What I don’t understand is why it has to be a competition. We are all fighting the same fight.

Why is your grief bigger than mine? Why is your story more upsetting than mine? You have suffered the pain of babyloss as much as me!
Why do you feel that you deserve more recognition as a parent than I do?

I may have been a part of this painful community for less time than you, does that give you the right to make me feel like I deserve less than you?

WHO MADE BABYLOSS A COMPETITION?

I’ve been part of forums, support groups, online chats etc and have seen it posted in black and white.

‘We don’t post articles on behalf of other support groups’
‘we don’t allow posts relating to fundraising events’
‘we don’t share posts from other charity pages’
‘we will only share posts relating to donations if they are directly benefitting us’

So I keep asking myself, is this a community or a competition? Is this something I want to be a part of?
A loose definition of community is a group of people who have something in common.
Whilst this is the case, by which I mean we have all suffered loss; maybe some people need to reassess their approach.

I can’t do anything about the fact that my daughter died during pregnancy.
I can’t do anything about all of the other children lost during pregnancy or at any other time but I think I can uphold my thoughts and feelings about this matter.

We at Nayely Adelpha Foundation don’t just support families, we try to support everyone in the babyloss community. We have and will continue to support other people and groups who are trying to make a difference.

WHO MADE BABYLOSS A COMPETITION?

We are all fighting the same battle.
We are trying to get people talking about babyloss.
We are trying to support each other.
Encourage each other to continue to work at making a difference.
Noones grief is bigger than anyone else’s, more recent maybe but no bigger.

ARE YOU MAKING BABYLOSS A COMPETITION?